Get Over It?

A great blog on the goodmenproject website today, “How Long Will It Take To Get Over Your Divorce?”.

Its quite a question, and one I am asked not infrequently. To my relief, the writer Dr Karen Finn, a divorce coach,offers no magic formula but basically says:  it takes as long as it takes. What she identifies are a number of strategies that can be adopted to ease and speed the process. 

There can be little doubt that divorce is a tough process for everyone who goes through it, no matter how keen they are for their marriage to end. Finding ways of building resilience as the process moves through its various stages can definitely help. In other words, you may not be able to make the procedure very much easier, but you can adopt strategies to strengthen your ability to cope with what’s being thrown at you.

Whilst my role as a divorce lawyer may on paper appear only to be to to deal with the legal aspects of a marital dissolution, the reality is very different. I certainly see an integral part of all that I do as getting my clients through to the ‘other side’ in all senses: legally, financially and emotionally. I know that when I close my file, my clients can’t just close theirs. They still have to live their lives, they still have to parent their children, they still have to be a family, albeit in a restructured way…and that all takes strength, purpose and optimism. If my clients leave my care in good shape to do so, I feel I’ve done my job.

How Long Will it Take to Get Over Your Divorce?Knowing these 3 phases of divorce recovery will help you understand exactly how long it will take.

The pain and confusion of divorce is so intense that at times you wonder if you’ve lost your mind. At other times, you worry that this agony is just how life will be from now on.

In less tortured moments, you know you’re still sane and that life will get better. But then you wonder when because you aren’t sure how much more of the misery you can take.

A quick Google will show you there are plenty of people who will willingly tell you exactly how long it will take you to get over your divorce. What you need to know is that they’re ALL WRONG.

rself to keep moving on.